Gift giving for families struggling financially

By Neil Allen

During these last few days before Christmas, many families who are struggling financially are trying to figure out how they’re going to put presents under the tree. Many dread the coming of holidays that require gifts, both in the gifts they give and the ones they receive.

I cannot remember the last time I wasn’t struggling through the holidays. This year is a repeat, though the reasons are different—my daughter and I are purposely living at close to poverty levels as part of our AmeriCorps VISTA service.

I like to use gift giving year round as a time to give both useful gifts mixed with a few frivolous things. Last Christmas, I gave my boyfriend a new nursing scrub top and a winter jacket as well as candy and some other small gifts I thought he would have fun with. This year, my daughter got me a practical gift—a water purifier. I’m allergic to the town’s water and buying bottled water is getting expensive, especially given how much tea I drink these days, so it is the perfect gift.

When you’re struggling to make ends meet, getting practical gifts mean so much more than a frivolous one. Especially when the gift makes normal everyday living easier. They may also be things that they’re less likely to ask for as they don’t seem to be appropriate for holiday gifts.

Here are some suggestions:

• Clothing is great idea when there are children in the family. Children are always outgrowing clothes and it is nice to be able to have something new to wear, especially when they’re used to wearing hand-me-downs. A gift certificate to a store may be a good choice if you don’t know what they like. If you’re giving clothes to an adult, think about what would enhance their life. Is a mom going to be going back to work and needs interview clothes or more business-type clothes for a new job? Does dad work outside in the winter and need heavy flannel shirts?
• If you’re going to give toys, give ones that don’t come with an on-going expense, like batteries or a subscription service. Things like dolls, play cookware sets, board or card games, and building toys like Legos or K’nex, puzzles are great “low maintenance” toys.
• Small appliances that help make cooking from scratch easier make good gifts—not only are they often time savers, they can also allow the family to eat healthier for less money. Things like a rice cooker, which can also be used to steam vegetables, or a crockpot are good choices. I got an ice cream maker for Valentine’s Day from a former boyfriend several years ago and we love using it to make a special treat.
• Other good options include gas or the grocery store gift cards or gift certificates for heating fuel or the garage where they go to get work done on their car or regular maintenance, like an oil change. If you live in an area where there’s public transportation, you could give them a bus or train pass. Coupons for babysitting, handyman services, or other skill are excellent options.

​What gift giving ideas do you have to help families who are struggling financially?

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